The Laka Lady comes in myriad forms. She is both big + small, thin + voluptuous, sexy + prude, conservative + liberal, spirited + sometimes blocked, dramatic + calm, happy + sad, athletic + sedentary at times, and everything in between. But there is a spark in the Laka Lady to hold her own version of self-care as paramount. Beyond the physical, but in her own way of defining spirituality + nutrition + meditation. There are no rules within Laka Living except doing everything with authenticity that is nothing short of flammable. She energizes herself through dance, movement, and plant medicine and absolutely knows real from fake. We are on the search for the Laka Lady in various forms and their inidvidual 10 Laws of Living....
Makena is a Cali-grown, island-flown fox who fills up her juju reserve on beach days, art galleries, and letting her husband tattoo "BABY" on her left shoulder girdle. She motivates her spirit through realistic living and accepting what life looks like right now in her 20s, even if that means with a cigarette in hand. I came with a vision and left with tips on how to run a successful Poshmark closet and a Venus symbol tattoo by yours truly, somehow. Her at-home stick-n-poke tattoo kit is Plan B. Mom, if you are reading this, I am sorry. I got my first tattoo last-night.
1. Tend to yourself like a garden. Do what is natural, nurture and cultivate your purest self.
2. Embrace yourself; your femininity, your sexuality, your body, your emotions, your spirit, your beliefs (even if people disagree, even if people think you're "too much," a fixation on being perceived as anything other than your whole self is so fucking absurd- tell 'em boy, bye). Get to know yourself intimately. Carve out space to navigate as your truest self, whoever that happens to be at the moment. Like yourself a little more.
3. Be creative. Take time to harness your feelings, experiences, and emotions and make them into art. Sometimes that looks like dancing all night and being sore for days and sometimes that means staying in bed all day crying and writing #sadgirl poems.
5. Call mom. Sometimes she will be drunk at bunco and forget to call you back, sometimes she will cringe at what you have to tell her, sometimes you will have to tell her to pour herself a substantial glass of wine before you tell her what you're about to tell her. But she is always there, she will always love you (if she still loves you after all of the shit you put her through at this point there is certainly nothing you could do to make her love you any less), and you will always feel better.
6. Go outside. Let the sun warm and tan your skin. Let the rain soak through your hair and clothes (seriously, I do this). Notice and take in the people and nature around you. Focus on these things that last; the natural world, the supernatural world, human relationships. Especially if you catch yourself feeling caught up in things that don't matter, things are just things, they don't last.
7. Never stop learning. Read books, Google stuff, enrich your mind.
8. Be a lover. Each person around you at all times is living a life that is just as vivid, complex, challenging, and emotional as you are. Practice acknowledging that. Think about other people's perspectives to the best of your ability. And whole- heartedly love people.
9. Be a fighter. For yourself, for what you believe in, for those you love, for those who can't fight for themselves.
10. Learn from the women around you. Females are strong as hell!!! Surround yourself with bad bitches, look to them for inspiration, a confidant, encouragement, companionship, literally everything. Every woman that you encounter is a #QUEEN and has something valuable to contribute.